February 20, 2015

Home Sweet Temporary Home

We've been in Calgary now for almost exactly three weeks. Some days it feels like we just got here yesterday, and some days I feel like we've been here for months already. Our current living situation finds us in an 800-square foot, two bedroom, furnished apartment right downtown. The plus side of this is Jim can walk to work in under 15 minutes, which maximizes his time at home with us. The downside is, 800 square feet. It's not that we are spoiled and need more living space to be happy (OK, we're a little spoiled), it's the way the space is utilized in this apartment. For one thing, there is way too much furniture in the little family room area. Throw in a few of Sully's toys and his stroller and highchair and it's no wonder it always looks like a crime scene when Jim comes home from work. The kitchen is a mere 5 feet by 2 feet area, and counter space is sparse, as is the tools needed to cook dinner.

I apologize. This is starting to sound like I'm complaining. And I promise, I'm not.

downtown Calgary skyline

Being downtown, albeit in a small space, means within a minute out the door, Sully and I can walk along the river. Or meet Jim for lunch. Or get a cup of coffee at any street corner. I rarely have to drive anywhere, unless I'm getting groceries, or just want to drive somewhere because I can. Urban living is pretty cool, but I do miss suburbia.

It's always a bit of a culture shock when you move somewhere new, even if it's only a few hours away. While I consider myself a pretty outgoing person, I always struggle initially at forcing myself to get out and explore. I hate the feeling of not knowing exactly where I'm going or standing out as someone who doesn't know where she is going. And when the sidewalks are full of people in a hurry to get places downtown, I feel at most out of my comfort zone and in people's way. They all know I'm not from around here. But I push on, truly knowing that no one is actually considering the girl with the stroller, because everyone is just trying to get where they are going. And that moment of desperation to be back in suburbia passes.

When we were day-dreaming about where we would live in Calgary, we talked about forgoing the comforts of a detached home and imagined us living a "New York lifestyle in downtown Calgary". Wouldn't it be fun to live in a high-rise, downsize our possessions, live more simply? When our house didn't sell before we moved, we decided to opt for temporary accommodations. It made the most sense: we didn't have to move our stuff, we would be within walking distance of Jim's place of work and it would fulfill our desire to live downtown.

welcome basket

We tried to bring as little as we could with us: clothes, highchair, stroller, some toys, and our vitamix. While I don't feel strongly that I'm missing any one particular thing from home, I do miss the comforts of our home. Of knowing that something is in the cupboard if I need it, like my favourite bowl to eat salad out of, my favourite coffee mug, my favourite paring knife. I don't need those things to survive, (we have bowls, mugs and knives here), but it feels a little less like home without them.

Three weeks into our living downtown has taught us a lot about what we want for our future home in Calgary. While I love the idea of downtown living, it's not as dreamy with a baby. Could I make it work if we had no choice? Sure, I'm pretty adaptable that way. Would it feel more like home if we had all our belongings? Probably. But if we don't have to make it work long term, then we know we would prefer to eventually be in a house. So thank you, life, for the learning lesson.

Unfortunately, it's a terrible time to try and sell your home in Edmonton. We never imagined it would take so long to sell ours, and because of this, we find ourselves in this state of limbo: we can't fully move forward with our relocation to Calgary because we still have a house to pay for in Edmonton. One foot in, one foot out. It's not an ideal situation, but it is what it is. Next month, we will move to another temporary accommodation, out of downtown, but still in a busy part of the city. Jim will take the train to work and Sully and I will get to know a new part of the city. We will do what we have to do to stick together as a family while we pray that our house sells soon.

Home, sweet, temporary home.



10 comments:

  1. Oh Brie! I can imagine you feel very i settled feeling in limbo! I really hope your house sells soon in Edmonton and you can start looking for more permanent residency in Calgary! :)

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  2. I applaud you for making the best out of things! I bet this time next year you'll look back at this time and it won't be an issue anymore. Good luck.

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    1. That's a good way to look at it! This too shall pass….

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  3. I can totally relate to living in a new city and adjusting to an urban lifestyle with a baby! I wish you good luck for a speedy sale of your home!

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    1. Haha, yes! While we are miles apart, our lives are somewhat parallel, aren't they?

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  4. Thankfully this is all temporary. Your house will sell eventually and you can cherish the adventures that your temporary arrangements bring you. I grew up on an acreage outside of a small town and have always dreamed of an urban life. I LOVE big cities and dream about what it would be like to live in NYC or even Vancouver. I think it would be so fun to test it out living downtown Calgary for awhile. But yes, I can see the challenges of having a baby.

    PS. i'm not sure how far you are from Holt Renfrew (8th avenue) but they carry Cru Juice there and you should try it. :) Also if you haven't been yet, Stephen Avenue is one of my favourite downtown streets to stroll down.

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    1. I think sometimes reality just isn't as glamorous as we think it will be ;) I also think summer would have been more fun to be living downtown during! But you're right, it's so temporary and soon it will be a distant memory and I'll probably wish I had made more of an effort!

      I'm super close to Holt Renfrew! Ill have to check it out! And Stephen Avenue too, as I'm not familiar with it either. Thanks for the recommendations!

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  5. Hopefully your house will sell soon and you will get what you want for it! I have always thought in another life I lived in a city Center, as I love city life, but my husband would never agree to move to a downtown!

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    1. Thank you so much! Haha, my husband tells me all the time now how much he loves suburbia and "square footage"! ;)

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